Knowing the beginning and ending of relationships

- Maitreya

In the journey of each life you have met people all along. Some were there for a short period and some continue to be with you in many lives. Each relationship has a deep meaning and an impact on us.

Some very brief relationships leave a long-term mark or scar whereas some lengthy relationships seem meaningless. It's because life path is a continual journey of coming back again and again. The accumulated inbuilt memory and karmic actions of our past keep bringing you closer to some people.

You love, hate, grieve, sob, hurt, get hurt and get kicks out of relationships. No relation is permanent except the one with your own self and its connection with the root.

All relationships are temporary. Some appear to be temporarily permanent and others permanently temporary. These ones keep coming in each life in different form as if chasing us.

The biggest challenge in any lifetime is to let go and to separate without pain or to manage the separation. I will send you some messages on how to handle these separations in coming days.

Meanwhile please remember and learn to value any relationships you maintain even though they may appear meaningless or colorless today.

Meet each person you know as if it is the last day of your meeting.

You don't know if you will ever encounter them again. Your acquired and false sense of security in mind will abhor to think that way forcing you to ignore this reality but note that all what you see today is temporary. This appears and sounds very cruel, hurtful and unbelievable but this false security is as solid as the dry paint on your house.

Keep this always in your mind that you have a very limited time to meet and inter-act with people in this life. NOW you have the time, will and possibility. You don't know when the next opportunity will come.

Do not wait for tomorrow to love. If you cannot love today please do not hope for the tomorrows, as it may never be there. YOU ONLY have today to love and do whatever you can for people you love. Forget the rest.

What you see is NOT what you SEE and what you get
If you wear expensive clothing but have no material possessions, will you be considered rich by the world? Or if you are very rich and wear a simple dress will you be poor? One of the most frequent routine things most people do is to visualize a person by their appearance and immediately pass a judgment in their heart. Never judge someone by skin. There may be more colors behind that white, pale, brown or black skin, which you may not find even in the rainbow.

Never judge someone for his thin appearance, there may be a huge personality in that frail body or for his big physique, there may be a cute little innocent baby in that wide body. Never judge anyone with poor looks, there may be hidden, God's most precious gifts in that mind.

Never judge anyone who appears to be ugly to you because the beauty of universe may lie behind that horrid ugly mask. If you really want to make friends & KNOW people, delve into their mind.
Value their mind, talents, the substance in their soul.

The content 'inside' is more important than the exterior colors. Like advertising & deceptive packaging, MOST appearances seen by plain eyes are NOT what they are. You can save a great deal of time; resources and life if you look behind the glitter.

Maitreya's Practical list to express LOVE and achieving total peace, harmony and success

Loving is manifested in millions of forms and loving in any form is connecting with life and all that is living is directly connected to the ultimate super creative reality.

As you cross the timeline and look back humanity has always defined love with their own knowledge, experience and styles yet love does not require any language to express itself. As you don't need any language or religion to talk to God, likewise you don't need any language or man made object to express love.Love can be expressed in as many ways as you want. Do not misunderstand love.

Fake, moralistic, fear inducing, unreal, stale, mass-marketed, you-are-the sinner type philosophies have distorted love to such an extent that love is reduced to touch and sensual pleasures. That's like selling advance tickets to heavens and paradises.

Remember - teach others that Love is also:

* To help someone without any greed, self interest or ulterior motives. Sharing is to create love

* To not hurt any living organism even at times you are hurt knowingly. Real strength is gentle.

* To not hurt others by words or actions by projecting inner insecurities, turmoil and fears. Deal your stuff dont victimize others.

* To sacrifice one's pleasures or rewards to bring happiness to people you care. Real pleasure is to let go.

* To only see the best part of others and ignore their worse traits. God may appear in any form.

* To forgive and forget forever and not keeping any resentments. Retaining resentment is cancerous.

* To accept your weaknesses, run routine checks for error and mistakes. Knowing self opens inner love source.

* To thank for all the good and worse things life and people have given you. Thanking is accepting the destiny.

* To not making others feel guilty for their failures to please yourself. Our failures are necessary to succeed.

* To not keeping guilt for your failure to please others. Pledge to do better next time.

* To not expect anything in return for all the favors you did to all. Giving is receiving.

* To plant, water, nourish and love as many plants and trees as possible. Be like a tree.

* To not hurt any living form of any size unless they are a threat to your life. Dont create anxiety, fear and hatred if you cant love.

* To save, protect and nurture ALL birds, water or earth animals and other life forms who cannot speak for themselves. They bless and love you.

* To not eat junk, artificially processed, lifeless foods even though they appear fancy. Prolong life.

* To not hate in any form to any one who is not of your type, religion, culture or color. Remove colored glasses.

* To not ridicule anyone for any disability, weakness, sickness, defect or poverty. Look within to laugh at you.

* To have compassion for all those who hate, despise and stab-in-back you for whatever reason. Answer them with kindness instead.

* To give hope, friendship and any form of support to anyone who is depressed, sad or losing life's vibrancy. Regenerating life enhances living

* To appreciate, encourage and say positive compliments to anyone who YOU THINK is ugly, inferior, stupid, imbecile and good-for-nothing. All Beauty is temporary.

* To respect & protect all children, women, men of all classes, castes, nationalities, colors, races, faiths and languages with equality. You dont know where you will birth next time.


maitreya

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• What is TRUE Love? How What and Why Love? Is Romantic Love Real? 12/19 09:44am

• How to Deal with OTHER People, friends, relatives and Strangers? 10/11 01:48pm

• How to deal with Betrayal and Deception ? 11/23 11:15pm

• How to Handle Rejection, Break or Separation, Divorce ? Can We Rejoin ? How to LET GO? 1/26 09:35am

• How to Handle difficult, abusive and other RELATIONSHIPS of Hurt, Pain and Anguish 4/22 05:19pm

• What is Marriage? How to make it work and succeed without losing love? 12/20 12:29am

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dear maitreya,
i am sandhya.ilove a boy called pintu.perhaps,he loves me too.but one day i broke up with him.again,i realised that i was wrong and i returned to his life.but,now he is having another girlfrnd that to also my frnd.what should i do now?

Dear Sandhya
Forget this boy. Focus on other things of life for a year and half. You will meet someone who will love you.

m

By Anonymous on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 02:17 am:

I need major help!!! I am in love with my first love who is also living w/ someone for the past 7 to 8 yrs. Did I mention that I am married with three children too? I love my husband and dont want to lose my family, but I love this other man too. I want him in my life. I want to be his and him to be mine. My birthday is 5-6-1969. His birthday is 2-13-69 and my husband's birthday is 2-22-64. I dont know if you can help but I am at witts end now. THe city I was born in Queens, NY somewhere around or after 12 mid.

By Anonymous on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 02:19 am:

Dear Maitreya ,
I need major help!!! I am in love with my first love who is also living w/ someone for the past 7 to 8 yrs. Did I mention that I am married with three children too? I love my husband and dont want to lose my family, but I love this other man too. I want him in my life. I want to be his and him to be mine. My birthday is 5-6-1969. His birthday is 2-13-69 and my husband's birthday is 2-22-64. I dont know if you can help but I am at witts end now. THe city I was born in Queens, NY somewhere around or after 12 mid.

By kalpana on Wednesday, January 28, 2004 - 06:58 am:

Dear Maytreyi

I am very happay to find this sight. I will read the good thoutht every day.
I am feeling very confused and lost at the moment. The worries seem to be never ending. Nothing in my hand yet nothing is wrong!!!
All I am thinking is I don't know what is happening around me. That is prventing me from creativeness.

By Anonymous on Monday, February 9, 2004 - 11:14 pm:

hi i think im in love with this guy who i used to hang around with last year. all we did was joke around with each other. we never had a serious conversation, until the last month or so and when i realised i was in love with him he had gone. i dont know what to do. please help me
please email me on my address. thank you so much!

By murad on Sunday, February 22, 2004 - 03:57 am:

DEAR MAITREYA
im in love with women 37 years old i m only 16 so what to do ?

By Anonymous on Sunday, February 22, 2004 - 10:11 pm:

i love. hi go to with me thanks

By Anonymous on Monday, February 23, 2004 - 02:21 am:

Dear Brother,
Iam very much disturbed internally,Iam 34 born-18th Jan.
Ihad a divorce once.Later with in 1.5 years got married to person,he did not tell me before this is his 3rd marrige.This issue is really bothering me inside to face many people outside.As a result lot of confrontations in the house.Some time he treast me good and sometimes very bad.I have no moral confidence,Please help me.
Regards
wini70

By Maureen Asiimwe Buhiire on Wednesday, April 7, 2004 - 03:45 pm:

Dear Maitreya,
Thanks for this work done. It has touched my life. I will stay in touch.
God bless
Maureen

By miss brohi on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 02:40 pm:

hi i m 20years old my date of birth is 25th may i want to know about my star and about my future .

By aisha on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 08:51 pm:

hi..
my date of birth is 24nov 1981 karachi pakistan
tell me about my life, marraige whetherlove or arrange,when willbe happen

By ANIH on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 09:06 pm:

hi this is HINA when will i find my love

By akash on Monday, April 19, 2004 - 07:11 pm:

hi i m akash.its my nick name.my date of birth 14-08-1981.iwana know about my love.who is she.i love some one but she hate me so much i dont know why.she says ur good person but i cant love u.what i can do .i m student of rngg

By Anonymous on Thursday, May 13, 2004 - 09:50 am:

Dear Maitreya,


Let me know if i m worth to live or better to die.you help people in trouble,so please show me the way.my marriage life is turned hell.my d.o.b 08-09-1978 and my ex-spouse 28-06-1971 may be.I want him back is it possible.help me.

By lostsoul on Monday, May 17, 2004 - 09:02 pm:

My name is lostsoul and I'm filled with pain and emptiness because my husband committed adultry. It's $

By Gina on Tuesday, May 18, 2004 - 05:36 pm:

Hello
My name is Gina, I'm 39 and last year I made a life changing choice, I got rid of my husband. We basicly grew up together, raised 2 great guys. He wasn't much of a husband, but had it together in the father area. He is not very possitive and could find a negitive any situation, even where you could only see possitives. Most of the time we walked on egg shells for it seemed he was a ruler. He was a bad drunk the last 5 or 6 years. He was really good at making me feel, as if all was my fault. And really, for the most part I kepted my mouth shut and he pretty much did what he pleased. There were many years I worked no where jobs, while he got a degree. There was no incourage for me. The best compliment I ever received was "What are you all dolled up for", I wear very little make-up, eye liner and little mascara. This is a person I spend almost 2 decades with. Wasn't much room for growth, I basicly tore down my whole sprit and now I issues with Emotional detachment. I don't beleive in "True Love", Unconditional Love, like the love I have for my kids, my family, and the few friends I hold dear to my heart. I'm actually confussed. I've met someone, we began basicly as friends, actually we have special bond, and the basis is wonderful bond, I care very much for him and many ways he has become my best friend. As a matter of fact, we are basicly the only friends we have, sense we both moved here to Arizona, exactly 1 year ago. We have a wonderful, very eroctic, very in depth sexual attraction. I find myself, totally and heartfully intouch with him when we are together. I have developed some very strong feelings, but again there is a detachment. He feels and sees, has brought it to my attention. As if he looking for me to say those words, I can't and will not say something I am not sure exssist. I don't know if I need help, I have come along way and am very prowd of where I'm at spritually, and the fact I like myself and have been able to develope a sense of good self esteem. I think your site is a very wonderful place for growth and sprituality. Even if you can not help me, or I will recommend to anyone and everyone. Epecially those in need of kind, awesome growing words. I read a passage, and am now a little concerned, that I may never be able to love another, or feel love. The sad thing is, because my Ex had no idea what love much less unconditional love was, he had no idea how give it or receive it. He told me more than once, that he wished he could be like me. He told me he knew he basicly had it made and that I was his cake, and yet he needed more. That my presense ment, a idealistic image of family, marriage. So we would project the image of family at the company picnics and partys. I spent many days of the last year, questioning myself, and wondering, how could love some so ugly, I knew I didn't like him for many years. I wonder even now, If I ever really loved or was my commitment to my childen, and my morals to the commitment I made in church that day. So I suppose my question is, If I can't love today, or tomorrow, will this always be the case. Should I let my wonderful friendship go, I truly don't want to hurt anyone, and there are moments when I feel the connection with my very special friend growing, and as if he wants to say somethings he is concerned I might just run from him. And yet, the bond of friendship is very strong, if we are not lovers, I can see him still part of my life. And we have talked about it. I truly have no desire for the relationship game and all the bagage it brings. What we have is too wonderful and the sprit is truly felt. I don't have moments of loniness, I found ways to chanell it in possitive manner. I am very content for the most part, and still cherish every min my friend and I spent together. How can all this be, no emotional detachment, and yet I can still care, have a bond, that is truly wonderful. Perhaps even a little unconventional. I suppose we should just call me a MESS?

By mams on Wednesday, May 26, 2004 - 11:30 am:

MY name- Abira Chatterjee
My Date ofBirth- 25.07.1980.
Place- Durgapur, West Bengal
Time- 11.30 pm.

I would like to know when will i get married , what type of marriage will it be- love or arranged, and something about my would be husband.

By Anonymous on Wednesday, June 16, 2004 - 10:49 pm:

There is a guy whom I truly love and I feel that I have lost him for good. He and I have been through a lot together, at one point I considerd calling it quits yet he was very persistant in asking me to not give up on him or our relationship. Now I think he wants to move on and I don't. What should I do to convence him not to give up?

By noman shaikh on Tuesday, June 29, 2004 - 09:33 pm:

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By sana ali on Sunday, July 4, 2004 - 06:32 am:

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By arooj on Sunday, July 11, 2004 - 05:55 pm:

i broke up my relations with my lesbian partner she dont wanna continue it what should i do how should i get out of this tention

By Mr.X on Monday, July 12, 2004 - 03:50 pm:

Dear Maitreya,
My birth date is 25 May,1962.
I have a real relationship problem to solve. During the month of January my telephone bill was found to be very high and when I asked my wife she told that it was because of her sister's marriage and other issues. However when I checked with the detailed bill it was confirmed that she gad dialled several times to a mobile number out of our family and friend circle. In a day more that 8 times she did call on that number. On my enquiry the owner of the phone was a lady and when I dialled it was answered by a male voice. Mean while my wife came to know about my suspecion and that number has been canceled temporirly by the exchange. If it were a sound friendly relationship, I infer there is no need to cancel that connection. I did not ask her about this guy and number yet. Still we are trying to trace the user of that phone.
Now mistrust has emerged into our 12 year old marital life. I can't trust her any more. I just pull on because of my two young boys. Kindly guide me at this time of crisis.
Yours everloving,
Mr.X

By Anonymous on Friday, July 16, 2004 - 05:56 am:

Dear Maitreya,August-22-1985
I really like this guy who is in my college.We Know each other really well and we are good friends.We have gone out on numerous occassions.I sometimes feel that he likes me from his behaviour.But now we dont meet often as we used to meet.He never really calls me up unless and untill we both have to meet . I dont know is it because of his reserved kind of attitude or he just treats me as his friend and bcoz he is more than a friend to me so i expect much more from him or was he just playing with me.I am trying to forget him but that is becoming more difficult.I cannot forget him.Pls Pls reply me back at ur earliest and just tell me whether what i am thinking is right.aaaaaaand just tell me about what he must be thinking abut me as a friend or more than a friend.

By bj on Friday, July 16, 2004 - 01:44 pm:

hi

By BK on Wednesday, July 28, 2004 - 01:35 am:

Dear Maitreya,

I am in a relationship currently dealing with issues that no one I know has encountered, and hope you may be of help.

I (D.O.B Apr 14 1977) met my girlfriend (D.O.B Jun 02 1982) online by chance a few years back, while I was studying overseas. We kept in touch through the years I was away from home, and our friendship grew with time. As we got to know each other deeper, I began to see what a wonderful person she was (kind, loving, humble, etc) - characteristics in a girl I have always wanted. I know what I am about to say may sound weird to some, but we soon became very attached, and although we had not met face to face, we came to realize we were soulmates.

4 years after our by-chance encounter, I returned home to meet her for the first time. The only aspect which I had not judged her on was her physical outlook and that was to change. Our first face to face encounter was wonderful. We talked and dined like we knew each other for ages. It did occur to me that she had some physical characteristics I was not used to or would have not normally found attractive (overweight, etc.) but i managed to throw those thoughts to the back of my head as irrelevant compared to her inner beauty.

Things started taking a bad turn once she was introduced to a number of my friends and relatives. I could see from the reactions on their faces that they did not approve of her physical outlook and were not saying anything out of respect of my decision to be with her. Those that could not control their opinions and felt they were obligated to 'help' me or 'save' me, came up to me and members of my family saying how a man of my qualifications, background, etc deserves a girl much more attractive, etc. The reasons for their argument seemed to concur with those back-of-my-head thoughts, and somehow in the process, reinforcing their relevance as much as I tried to fight them away. Those thoughts now became my concern, and before I knew it, I began to realize I was acting differently towards her despite not wanting to, all because I was beginning to find her unattractive.

It was only a matter of time before she noticed these changes. As she put it, I was not as romantic as I was. The spark in me had somehow faded. I felt difficult talking to her about what had begun to bother me as it seemed wrong and mean for me to do so. When confronted, I initially brushed her concerns aside with excuses, but she knew me too well. Weeks passed and eventually I told her. As expected, she was terribly hurt. Her ego crushed and her heart broken to pieces. I felt terrible for what I was putting her through, and prepared myself for the worst. However, I believed I did the right thing by being sincere about my thoughts - my shameful blanket of negative thoughts that were seemingly overtaking my ability for logical and reasonable thought.

When she eventually found the strength to respond to my sudden yet immature problem, she told me if it was anyone else, she would have ended this relationship right away, but because it was me and what she has shared with me emotionally, and most importantly how wonderful she knows our relationship can be, she is willing to sacrifice and take the effort to make changes, to address the issue at hand (loosing weight, etc.), all for the sake of igniting the spark and wonderful times we once shared. I felt fortunate by her decision, as I would consider it utter stupidity on my behalf to loose someone as wonderful as her based on issues such as physical attraction.

As I write this to you, we are still seeing each other, she is making progress - slowly but surely - towards making physical changes, and we are both optimistic things will return to how they were when we would talk on the phone for hours while across the sea from each other, and how our love once glowed with a fire that was the envy of many. All is going well.

Or is it? This is wrong Maitreya. What I am expecting of her and making her do is so so so wrong and I know it! I am so ashamed and yet cannot seem to fight this issue - dealing with her physical outlook, so much so I am forcing her to change. I do not deny for an instant that had we met on different circumstances (our first introduction face to face rather than online), I would probably have not made an effort to get to know her well and thus not dated her as I would not have had that initial physical attraction to get closer. I am a strong believer that everything happens for a reason, which is why I believe there was a reason I got to know her inner beauty first, before seeing her outer beauty. And that reason is so I could get to know the greatness of this individual prior to judging her physical outlook and thus accept her for who she is. And that is what I want to do...without having to put her through this ego shattering torture of having to alter herself just to look good for me. But how? I have tried, but its a loosing battle with my inner thoughts and how I have been accustomed dating slim and slender girls in the past, yet whose characters are nothing compared to hers. What can I do to make this stop? We hear it all the time: It's the inner beauty that counts. So why is it so hard to overcome outer beauty? And I do realize that to sustain a healthy relationship, you must accept your partner for who they are and never expect them to change according to your taste by forcing change upon them in the long run. Yet that is exactly what I am doing in order to desperately cling on to her. I am being so selfish - Wanting her to be a complete woman of my dreams, her inner beauty not seemingly enough.

Please, Maitreya. Please tell me how to reverse this. For I am beginning to realize that if I cannot make myself accept her completely for who she is, then I perhaps should stop being selfish and let her go. I will no doubt regret it for the rest of my life and leave her very hurt for a long time to come. But a jewel of a person like her deserves a much better partner than the cold immature one she has found in me.

By faiza on Thursday, August 12, 2004 - 08:36 am:

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By Mike on Thursday, September 2, 2004 - 09:18 pm:

Recovering(slowly) from discovery of my wife's affair. It eneded over 2 years ago, I found out almost 3 months ago. Seems like it just happenned yesterday.

Did not think I could deal emotionally with the fact that my Christian wife of almost 28 years now, virgin when we married, mother of my children...had given herself to another man. The pastor said I couldn't deal with it, but God and I together could.

The first few days were the worst.I felt tormented by overwhelming anxieties, thoughts and feelings the like I had never experienced before. Begged God to take these thoughts and feelings from me, not to let me keep obsessing about them. It was so hard to go to work and pretend everything was ok, do my job, relate to "normal people with normal relationships."My heart was so heavy, my mind in termoil. I would have rather she plunged a knife into my heart, the pain would have been less, and over sooner.

My wife assured me she was now aware of what a huge mistake she had made. She was more convinced now more than ever she loved me, only wanted me, and was willing to do anything to prove it to me. She has suffered from depression since before we were married. She had been advised by her councellor and friends not to tell me about the affair. She carried a tremendous guilt around, couldn't share with me her closest friend for fear of losing me- we had agreed long ago that infidelity was one thing we could never forgive. She went into a deep depression shortly a few months after the affair ended, had to take time off from work(school teacher), didn't know for a while if I would get her back from it.

With time and prayer, my periods of overwhelming thoughts began to become less frequent and less intense. I can see what I did to enable and contribute to the affair.

When God forgives, He forgets about the sin. If God told me "Mike I forgive you for this, but I still have some bad thoughts and feelings,"about whatever, I probably wouldn't feel as if he had truly forgiven me. I know the best thing is to forgive and erase those negative thoughts and feelings from my mind, to concentrate on today and the future.

I've done a lot of research about causes of, recoverying from, preventing adultery. The last few days I have hardly thought about"it" at all. But sometimes it hits melike a ton of bricks-ZAPP! MY WIFE GAVE HERSELF TO ANOTHER MAN!

All I have is time and prayer. Some people have suggested councelng, get involved with a sport in which you hit a ball(I used to be a good tennis player), increase my circle of friends, ect. I would like concrete examples of how to deal with this.

We have become so much closer. Our sex life is wonderfull. My wife had always had trouble achieving orgasm. Even with the exitement of the affair, she did not achieve orgasm with her new lover. We have discovered now that she is multi-orgasmic. We are able to communicate so much better now.

Any words of advise or encouragement???

By Anonymous on Saturday, September 11, 2004 - 06:13 am:

Dear Brother,
I am Sam from Mumbai,India. I have a question to you about my love. I love this girl from three years. It was love at first sight for me. But this is a one-sided love. In these 3 years,we have spoken for just about 5 times. She avoids me constantly. But i cant avoid her. I think she is the one i was waiting for. Now within six months my final term is goin to end up and we will be seperated. I am very depressed. Till now i am not been able to tell her personally that i dearly love her. I want to know... is this love of mine true? will it last? will she accept me? will we ever meet ?


She is very friendly with other friends of our class.Also she is the only girl i must not be talking that openly as i do talk to others in my entire college. She says she stays away from me as if not to give a positive feeling. Now how can a girl be so stone-hearted? My friends keep on telling me that there are many girls outside,she is not the only one and so on. I listen to what they say ... But i dance to the beat of my heart ... and it sayz "Its just Her". That why even though she is so stubborn with me... i am that much totally dedicated to her. One thing more to tell about her is that she does not has any affair till date.

The only thing that is negative is that i have got into addictions. On her birthday in our First Year i tried to give her a card. But she didnt accept it and i overreacted a bit n she cried. From that day smoking started and now i have drinks. But i am quite sure.. if she tells me to leave all this i surely will do so.But would she ever tell me?

Brother you have got to guide my mind. Please tell me whether what i am doing ( i.e waiting for her with uttermost patience) is right or not. What will make her feel for me?

DOES " LOVE_AT_FIRST_SIGHT" Concept STILL EXIST ?Is this a TRUE belief ?

Help me brother.Please.I beg.
SAM

By bev on Friday, September 24, 2004 - 12:09 pm:

My Fiance' and I of 8 yrs just separated. My name is Bev 1/13/52 and his is Frank 5/1/51. What is going on and what will become of this? Please Help?

By zahid on Tuesday, October 5, 2004 - 08:22 am:

AOA zahid,initialss....instead of anonymous your identity, waterflow_72@islamabad.net-anyonymous use enter kew twice to make a new para in your message.

By Anonymous on Wednesday, October 6, 2004 - 10:58 am:

Dear brother Maitreya,
kindly confirm that i receieve yuor postings on various subjects daily in my inbox.
thx.

By aliza on Sunday, October 10, 2004 - 06:53 pm:

hi my name is aliza and i love some one but he dont love me what can i do.please help me.

By mia on Tuesday, November 2, 2004 - 11:26 am:

Dear Maitreya!

I wish to express my sincere gratitude!
May God continue to bless your beautiful soul.

much love,
An appreciative listener and student,
Mia(oct-12-66)

By anita on Monday, November 8, 2004 - 12:59 am:

As life goes on, I know that I am truly blessed. I have a good life (by anyone's standards). My children are happy and healthy, my mate is good and kind to me, I have steady good employment at a place most would kill to work at. I have a horse and many other 'things' in my life. I have worked hard, and prayed hard. My blessed Goddess has smiled upon me. A few years ago, (actually millenia) I met my twin flame. It was quick and passionate and over before I could even process what happened. My soul cries everyday over the loss of him. I go through my life somewhat aware conscious the wonders around me, and grateful for it all. But sadness perpetually dwells in the bottom well of my soul. I've tried giving him over to the light, the fates, the whatevers, it matters not. My soul grieves at the loss. I've sent to him the shekinah violet love that the oversoul shares. It helps. But still at the back of my mind is this man and what he means to me. I only wanted him to let me know...that was all..I wish this sadness would leave me. But it is as much a part of me now as is my eye color..I cannot change it. Any thoughts? thank you.

By peace on Wednesday, November 17, 2004 - 12:28 pm:

Dear brother Maitreya,

The will to love is larger than life,
It IS life
every time we encounter love,it is so difficult to let go,even when lack of evolution in the relationship is apparent..
After experiencing a strong connection,I felt the need to let go of a relationship that has reached it's end.
Finding it tempting to believe that my departure might cause him to "wake up" from his denial and evolve..therefore causing me to somehow "wait"..
Does this thought represent my failure to release
my attachment..
Or is it important for me to concentrate on the complete release without knowledge of the future..
Why,after having made the concious decision,do I find it so hard to let go and go on with my life..?
My birthdate is oct-12-66 08:43 am,N.Y (U.S),and his is oct-26-65

Open to anything I have to learn..

Appreciative listener and student,

By Anonymous on Friday, December 17, 2004 - 08:44 pm:

hi,
I love a guy so much and its impossible for me to forget him. I love him so much. But when I proposed him, he rejected me saying that his parents dont agree.But I feel he dont like me. I am confused to how to handle this situation.My life has become miserable as I think about him almost every minute. please advise.waiting for your reply.
Thankyou.

By Anonymous on Saturday, December 18, 2004 - 05:54 am:

Let Me know that when would I get married with the person I love?

By jrmah on Monday, December 20, 2004 - 11:08 am:

hello,
how do i know if someone is really faithful to me?
because i have two boyfriends and a lot of admirer. please advise me.

rose M.

By raza on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 12:52 pm:

Me message is,
To try to spend your life happy to first your parents and then other. All of them is better is that you spend your life in love of your God.then you spend your life in othe best otherwise no.Therefore,First I love very much to our God,who live in moon sun blake stone and other places of the universe and me heart.
you tell me that what you wants then next ok by.........

By raza on Tuesday, December 21, 2004 - 01:00 pm:

In my thoughts that love is God .That is no that When two persons meet one to other that is love no. the relation of love is your soul.

By ROSELIN on Sunday, January 9, 2005 - 06:59 am:

WELL I FEEL HAPPY CAUSE I HAVE EVERY THING I NEED BUT IM KIND OF SAD CAUSE THERES SOMETHING MISSING IN MY LIFE AND THATS MY FATHER BUT I KNOW HE LOVE ME BUT I REALLY MISS HIM BUT IM HAPPY AND I FEEL LOVED FROM EVERY ONE AROUND ME I THANK GOOD THAT I HAVE THIS GREAT FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND FOR LETING ME BE SO HAPPY LIKE THIS I LOVE BEING HAPPY BUT LIKE I SAID I REALLY MISS MY DAD AND I WISH HE WAS HERE BUT I KNOW THAT HE IS WATCHING ME FROM HAVEN AND HE IS BLESSING ME EVERY DAY... THANK YOU GOD

By tehreem on Thursday, January 27, 2005 - 01:39 pm:

hello friends i m in love i dont know when or how but i still loves once who d'not cares me what can i do for him i dont know

By shafqat on Tuesday, March 22, 2005 - 05:26 am:

hi all the readders i am shafqat & i am 20 years old boy in pakistan i jsut wnat 2 say that make friends in urs life bcoz if u have good friends in urs life than u r a reach person of this world if u have no than u r the poorest person of this world so plz make som good friends any body wnat 2 make me friend than this is my ids shafqatstar12000@yahoo.com & shafqatnu@hotmail.com bye & takecare
ok know i tell u about my self i like 2 play cricket & like 2 readding books i like light blue color .
bye all the friends

By sakina on Sunday, April 17, 2005 - 07:38 pm:

It is enlightening to read the messages. It helps opening up my hidden self.

By Ann on Wednesday, May 4, 2005 - 02:04 pm:

Dear Maitreya,
I am enlightend by your website! It brings a calm over me to read through it. I am born under the sign of Cancer, July 19, 1970 10:19 a.m.
I am going through a breakup of a relationship. We have been together for 3 years and were engaged. He gave me no reason other than he didn't want to be in the relationship anymore. I am looking for closure on this and just need to know why he wants it over. I have dealt with a lot of the emotion already, but I know there are tough days ahead. We have had our fights and have not been getting along very well the past month. I do still love him and care for him. I am hurting and wanting closure. I know you get tons of these type of posts, but I am desperate for answers and any help or insight would be greatly appreciated.

By mdevarajan on Tuesday, May 24, 2005 - 08:52 am:

Dear Maitreya

I use to get your free horoscope with your message. But for last couple of years I stop getting your newsletter. I find your messages very good and enlightening.

I wanted to talk to you and share my feeling to you
I have learned first level of Reiki. After learning reiki my life has changed drastically. My way of thinking my life style and handling the situation everything has been changed.

I was in a relationship for 4years. Everything was going well our parents agreed and we were almost got engaged but one fine day he backed off from the relationship. I was shattered. I was suffering from depression for 6 months. During this period I learned reiki and also enter into spiritual path. Started attending spiritual seminars and workshop. these things really helped me to come out of my depression and learned to live life once again with new vision. Vision of God and understood this was one of my karma. This person helped me to clear my karma and I bless and thanked this person. My relationship started with this person in jan 2000 – feb 2004.

In my depression period I met lots of people and I met this gentlemen called ‘G’. I was friendly with him but not too friendly because I was no mood to start another relationship at this confused juncture. But this person wanted to be friendly with me. Then I also started liking this person we started spending time with each other. By that time I surrender myself to god and was flowing through flow. I stopped fighting with the situation and accepted the things. This time spend some time with myself and god and asked him is this the person I wanted to spend my entire life ? god answered me with the situations all the situation was placing well and every time I used to get the messages. In January 2005 I started seeing ‘G’. Initially was not serious was ready to take any kind of situation. But then he only said he is serious and wanted to marry me. He was even ready to speak to my parents and his parents. Then again one fine day he just disappeared. Its been months time I didn’t hear anything from him. But my intuition is saying he will come back.

I have opened my life to you. Now please beloved Maitreya guide me and help to show me right path. I am really confused and worried about the entire thing.

Certain things situations are coming back into my life again & again. Please guide me how to come out of this cycle. I also have right to live my life happily.

Please help me!!!


pls. find my details:

Name : Manjula Devarajan
Date of Birth : 03.04.1975
Time of Birth :0720hrs
Place of Birth :New Delhi


Love you,

M

By jagvir kaur on Tuesday, May 24, 2005 - 10:15 am:

hallo,i m panjabi girl.my marriege life is not good.i m very sad.what i do now?i dont understand.plz help me.

By chakku on Friday, May 27, 2005 - 03:49 pm:

dear brother,
i'm a single child .we are just three persons at home;me, my mother and father.I request you to kindly get me a solution for my problem.My parents are very loving and caring.But they have a misunderstanding for very silly problems in life.They dont speak to each other and thus prevails a graveyard silence at home always.I just can't tolerate this.I have requested them several times not to continue with this behaviour for the past several years but it was of no use.Atleast I want to have peace of mind.There is not a day without tears rolling down my cheeks.I believe that you can help me brother.I have none to share my worries.I love my parents so much.Kindly help me.Hope my prayers come true.Expecting your early reply.

By ahmed.umer on Sunday, May 29, 2005 - 01:45 am:

i.am.no.inglis

By tehreem on Saturday, July 2, 2005 - 06:22 pm:

i love a guy in other city i met him in a competition of singing and started liking him how should i ask him that he loves me i m in contact with him on internet only.my mom does not knows about our chating if she knows she will be very worst.tell me what to do?

By Anonymous on Sunday, July 17, 2005 - 09:13 pm:

i love some one iwant to marry him he he doesnot reply me.is he marry with me . when he give me reply .what is his answer

By Anonymous on Wednesday, July 20, 2005 - 06:39 am:

hi...h r u?i love a boy i wana know tat he loves me or not....my DOB iz 31 may 1987 n his iz 10 feb
thx

By echo on Sunday, July 31, 2005 - 04:42 am:

can I remove a post I made 2 years ago? please email me....
many thanks

By Anonymous on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 05:58 am:

hello what is love i relation in u.k i gofor uk

By tweety on Thursday, August 25, 2005 - 07:05 am:

HI!I want to tell u tht there is a guy i luv a lot, and there was a time when things were fine between both of us, and i went on wit this guy even though he has a gal i know i was wrong , well we both went on for 2 months and then broke up , ok and then we were very gud friends, he is use to care for me a lot and couldnot see me in pain , and i always listened to him whtever he said to me , we use to met each other also then suddenly he got chiken pox, after we broke up , i use to feel he doesnt care for me and all tht so he has two very close friend , well when he had chicken pox he didnot cum to college so i went to his friends and told them tht i feel he doesnt care for me all tht , and i told it should be between us wht ever we spoke , they were like ok, then i dont know wht happ after that he is like it seems i dont understand him , befroe his chicken pox everyday in nite we use to talk for long time , but then in chicken pox he didnot speak to me much i use to feel bad, i know i was wrong i should have understood him , then he is like it seems i tired to show oof ppl tht i m his gal when we both were going out in our coll no one new knew it , why will i try to show ppl tht , now it is like he doesnt wanna talk to me , he will talk to when he wants, i went few days back on msn he was there he blocked me , i dont know why , when i didnot even message him or call him yeah in between on friendship day i just messaged him and then on independence day thts it , after i didnot , i just want him to be my very good friend tht it i dont want anything else, many in college told me he is flirter, i have no idea wht to do , pls help me waiting for reply!Bye tk pls soon!

By Anonymous on Monday, September 19, 2005 - 05:51 pm:

hi,
i loved by a such innocent person, i like him,but i can't love him forcely.coz he is not my ideal.he is good but my past is not good .i loved someone in past.who leave me.now its impossible to love him.wht u w suggest.would i have to clear him or he can atomatically know.coz he loves me blindly.gave me suggestion

By jo on Tuesday, September 20, 2005 - 11:04 pm:

december 31-63
hi
i have been in a difficult situation for a year now, 2 years ago i met a man,and we clicked straight away,we spent all our time together as we enjoyed each others company so much,then he came to live with me,i found out after this that he was married,by this time i had fallen in love with him,he told me that he married his wife because his father expected it of him because he had made her pregnant,he said he didnt love her anymore but he had to live up to his responsibilitys,(we are in england and his wife was in another country waiting to come over)last september she did come to england and we had a painful parting,he wanted to try to make his marriage work for the sake of his child,i was devastated but stayed out of his life and started to rebuild mine, i stepped back but still a year later we are in each others lives,i have given him the space to try to make things work,i have never put pressure on him or expected anything from him,i have helped him lots of times when he has needed me,other people say that he is using me but everything i have ever done for him i have done because i love him,it has been hard to not feel bitterness or anger towards him at times when i have been alone and thought about the situation,he calls me every day to tell me he loves me and has recently told me that he can not stay with his wife and is spending more and more time with me not for sexual purposes,we cheer each other up and enjoy each others company,we chat and laugh together and have a cuddle,i feel that he truly does love me,again though a lot of negative opinions from friends saying things like just get rid of him,i feel that i have true love for this man and our spirits are connected

By saad on Saturday, September 24, 2005 - 08:10 pm:

hi to every one
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By Anonymous on Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 01:43 am:

Hi well i need some advise the other day my boyfriend called me and did not get me. He then let the night go on without calling. He called me at 1:15 in the moring and said he knew i would be mad but he didn't call because he was drinkin with his friend. And he told me that the friend said to tell him me he was with the firend. He also went on to say that his car was in the shop out of nowhere and he had to take the bus to the baskeball court then to the firends. Should i belive him or not, i have a strong feeling about this.

By khushe on Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 05:22 pm:

i dont believe in love

By Anonymous on Wednesday, October 12, 2005 - 04:39 am:

dear maitreya

I am having very sadness going on!i lost my 2 yeas relationship.i lost my love.i lost my girlfriend this year ( 1 may 2005 )i love very much her and i want marry her.how can i get her?how can i marry her?now she love her bestfriend.now she dont call mee.I've been in a serious realationship for 2.5 years.please help me?i am 32 year man.Birth day is 6 sept 1973.

shazail

By Anonymous on Sunday, November 6, 2005 - 02:39 am:

hi maitreya,
iam a failure person in life right now iam in a situation giving divorce or taking separation with my husband.we have been married from past five years
and ihave a 5 months old baby,you know what i love my husband more than any thing in the world but today it came to a point there is no option for me other than divorce or separation.my husband is very stubborn person and if he get angry he will beat or shout on me what ever it is i beared with him all these years and every time he will tell me iam a
arrogant lady he doesnot like my behaviour and every time he use to keep some new conditions for us to live together but finally it came to divorce,i mean nothing new in this he use to threaten me so many times in these five years either he will give divorce or we are not going to live together or harass me in some other way,i dont understand what to do now whether i should take divorce or live separatly and think about this matter because there are some times when he is very good with i cant understand his personality,he will be very good or he will be very bad, idont know even how to express my feelings,please show me some solution

hema

By Anonymous on Friday, May 20, 2005 - 06:45 am:

Dear Maitreya

I use to get your free horoscope with your message. But for last couple of years I stop getting your newsletter. I find your messages very good and enlightening.

I wanted to talk to you and share my feeling to you
I have learned first level of Reiki. After learning reiki my life has changed drastically. My way of thinking my life style and handling the situation everything has been changed.

I was in a relationship for 4years. Everything was going well our parents agreed and we were almost got engaged but one fine day he backed off from the relationship. I was shattered. I was suffering from depression for 6 months. During this period I learned reiki and also enter into spiritual path. Started attending spiritual seminars and workshop. these things really helped me to come out of my depression and learned to live life once again with new vision. Vision of God and understood this was one of my karma. This person helped me to clear my karma and I bless and thanked this person. My relationship started with this person in jan 2000 – feb 2004.

In my depression period I met lots of people and I met this gentlemen called ‘G’. I was friendly with him but not too friendly because I was no mood to start another relationship at this confused juncture. But this person wanted to be friendly with me. Then I also started liking this person we started spending time with each other. By that time I surrender myself to god and was flowing through flow. I stopped fighting with the situation and accepted the things. This time spend some time with myself and god and asked him is this the person I wanted to spend my entire life ? god answered me with the situations all the situation was placing well and every time I used to get the messages. In January 2005 I started seeing ‘G’. Initially was not serious was ready to take any kind of situation. But then he only said he is serious and wanted to marry me. He was even ready to speak to my parents and his parents. Then again one fine day he just disappeared. Its been months time I didn’t hear anything from him. But my intuition is saying he will come back.

I have opened my life history to you. Now please beloved Maitreys guide me and help to show me right path. I am really confused and worried about the entire thing.

Certain things situations are coming back into my life again & again. Please guide me how to come out of this cycle. I also have right to live my life happily.

Please help me!!!


pls. find my details:

Name : Manjula Devarajan
Date of Birth : 03.04.1975
Time of Birth :0720hrs
Place of Birth :New Delhi


Love you,

MD

By khushe on Thursday, September 29, 2005 - 05:26 pm:

actually some one love me more seriously but i m not going to love him there is no reason but still i m insisting him that we are friend not lover tell hat can i do he is v dishearted now

By nawaal on Tuesday, October 4, 2005 - 06:19 pm:

i love some one he is crazy abt me and me too
i am scared that he doesnt leave me

By Majeed on Tuesday, October 11, 2005 - 06:57 am:

Type of Love attraction & Send my all stars relation and detail.

I will thankful to you.

By UJWALA on Tuesday, February 8, 2005 - 06:35 am:

BROTHER MAITREYA,

BIRTH DATE: 9/05/1982. TIME 10.30 PM.

I HAVE A FRIEND WHO SAYS HE IS MY ONLY FRIEND. BUT I FEEL I LOVE HIM. I HAVE TOLD HIM ABOUT MY PAST BF WHO DITCHED ME. HE IS NICE AS A FRIEND AND UNDERSTANDS ME VERY WELL. BUT I AM SCARED WILL HE ACCEPT ME AS HIS GF. COZ HE SAID HE DOES NOT BELIEVE IN LOVE HE BELIEVES IN FRIENDSHIP. SO I AM SCARED. WHAT SHOULD I DO. PLEASE HELP.

WAITING FOR YOUR REPLY.

THANKYOU AGAIN.

Dear sister Ujwala

Please understand what he is saying to you. Love is in you and you desperately need to reflect that in a friend. Please do not misunderstand friendship with love. If you are seeking a person to love and soon wait for a huge break of heart, he is the right person.

You should wait for a year and half and there on you will meet a person who will be your mate.

m

By Anonymous on Sunday, April 17, 2005 - 10:23 am:

DEAR MAITREYA
I HAVE READ YOUR LOVE SECTION WITH GREAT INTEREST. I AM 40 YEARS OLD , FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE, WAS IN LOVE WITH ME THEN TOLD ME SHE WASNT. I`VE BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE, I`VE MARRIED , DIVORCED ETC.

WITH THIS ONE ITS DIFFERENT. I AM COMPLETELY OVERWHELMED WITH PAIN. I SEE HER AND FEEL HER. I HAVE AN ALMOST PSYCHIC LINK WITH HER, AND ALTHOUGH I DON`T STALK HER OR PRESSURE HER AND ACCEPT ANY DECISION SHE MAKES, I CAN "SEE" OUR HAPPINESS TOGETHER. I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND THIS BECAUSE I DON`T. I AM A WELL BALANCED PERSON AND I`M WELL AWARE OF MAYBE WISHFUL THINKING AND IGNORING REALITY, BUT THIS ISNT , AND HURTS ME MORE THAN ANYTHING I HAVE EVER EXPERIENCED IN MY LIFE.
THERE IS A FEELING DEEPER THAN MY HEART AND HIGHER THAN IN MY MIND THAT TELLS ME WE SHOULD BE TOGETHER AND THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT. I REPEAT , I WON`T STALK HER OR BECOME OBSESSIVE , BUT I FEEL CHEATED AND AS THOUGH MY SOUL HAS BEEN KILLED.EXAGGERATED? SO IS THE PAIN I AM FEELING.


Dear brother

I do feel your current state and anxiety but at the same time good news is that you have matured and accepted her decision without becoming obsessed. You needed to go through this experienced so let it be. This yearning and suffering, your desire to be with her and being connected to her soul and your being overwhelmed with pain is a very powerful state.

In one previous life you were connected with her and she felt a very similar pain for your betrayal in that life. This state also provides an opportunity for you to make great changes in your life while you burn in the fire of separation. This powerful fire can connect you with your higher self and thus smile, relax and thank her for opening your dormant fire's locks.


Your soul is not killed but you need to re-align your self back to where you were while you dissolve her memories.

This time you let it go. Do not resist nor expect. Just dissolve her being from your mind and heart like you will dissolve sand in water back to ocean. If you can reach that stage you will soon experience a very interesting event.

I do know you think of her most of the conscious time, instead sit down for 10 minutes, think of her, and pray for her well being and send her message of peace. Do that for next few days. Within a week you will notice that something will happen. Paradoxically do not expect anything however nor wait for this 'happening'.

m